I am 3 months separated from my bipolar husband. I chose to file a domestic violence restraining order after a series of uncontrolled angry outbursts, directed at me, left my children so scared that they didn’t want to stay in our house for fear he would come back. We have been married 21 years. We have four girls, 15, 11, 7 & 3. He was diagnosed in 2008 but the symptoms go back to before our marriage. For many years I felt optimistic, that with education and perseverance he could manage his illness. He’s been very successful with his career, though this year he lost his job as a direct result of his unstable behavior. This year he has attempted suicide and been on involuntary hold twice. After the separation I discovered that he has also been drinking heavily and lying about it throughout our marriage. My problem isn’t the illness. I honestly believe bipolar is manageable. My problem is the destruction that his self hatred fuels through lying and sneaking. It’s one lie after another. Some seemingly small, others huge and always denying. I feel like I’m going crazy and I’m so hurt. I ask myself daily, how can I ever get over this? The TRO will be lifted in February. I specifically asked for a solution other than a permanent restraining order, the judge gave him 4 months to go to therapy, AA meetings and earn the kids trust back through short, supervised visits. He’s managed the meetings and therapy, found another executive position, but he’s still demanding a meeting with me, blaming me for his problems, and the two older kids hate going to see him stating his “weird” and depressed behavior and inappropriate questions about me. The tightrope I walk of trying to assure my kids that I will always keep them safe and teaching them empathy and compassion is constant. I just don’t know how this will ever become a tolerable situation. I’m confused and frankly, scared I’m going to make the wrong decisions no matter what I choose.
CVS and it’s Pharmacy at routes 29 and 73 in Zeiglerville, PA is a joke. They are unprofessional and totally ignorant. I was helping a friend just released from a hospital post surgery. On the way home from the hospital we went to the drive through to fill the needed prescriptions. We were in line behind another car well before 6 PM. When we got to the window at just before 6 PM. A redheaded guy/pharmacist said they closed at 6 but he would fill the order. A mousey brown haired girl came to window to hand out the order but, it was only half completed which she new but, started to close the window any way. I rang the buzzer and another mousey brown haired girl came up to the window and insisted on closing the window. I asked for the original pharmacist who took the order – the store manager came to the window and said that pharmacist had left already which was not true. These people just wanted to close the drive thru at exactly 6 pm – even though we had been told the order would be filled and even though we were at the window well before 6PM. A real bunch of unprofessional jerks. The manager of that pharmacy should be fired.